With the high incidence around, former Big Brother housemate Vanessa Williams aka Vandora says it’s proper to seek your partner’s permission before getting intimate.
While at the Big Brother House, Vandora had explained a form of rape he experienced in her former relationship. In a chat with Sunday Scoop she stated that her boyfriend must first get her approval before getting down.
“When I made that comment about my ex in the house, rape had just been ‘redefined’ and based on what we were told, I believed that what my former partner did could be termed as rape. It was actually a long time ago that I dated the person in question and the relationship had ended as of the time I made that comment. As a matter of fact, I’ve been in my present relationship for over five years. However, at that time, I didn’t really know the gravity of what I said.
“But it doesn’t matter that we were in a relationship; what the guy did was actually rape. If anybody is taking you against your will, it is rape, whether you’re in a relationship or not. My partner has to seek permission before we get intimate because I may not want to at that time. It doesn’t count even if we had been intimate before then. Rape is actually a big deal, and so far sex is not consensual, it is wrong.”
Vandora told Sunday Scoop that she isn’t under any form of pressure to lead a fake life or be seen in a certain kind of way.
“Pressure is a thing of the mind. Nobody is under pressure to do anything. Most times, people put themselves under pressure and do things because they actually want to be seen in a certain way. I am exactly where I want to be and I do what I want to do. People live fake lives everywhere, and I don’t know why there is so much focus on Big Brother housemates,” she said.